‘O’ Requested – Introduction

12 Nov

By Stacie Smack

This is the first in an ongoing series where we discuss that most elusive of phenomena, the female orgasm, and related matters.

Recently, the New York Times put out an article  on women and hookups (something I am sure they are are all VERY familiar with). I’ve decided to share my thoughts. Briefly.

I don’t know WHY we always have to blame the partner on not making us achieve climax. Presumably, in an encounter, there’s always the implicit male dominance (not always, but we can’t deny that the majority of the times, we let the guy take charge). And then HE insures that HE finishes. We should be doing the same, rather than expecting them to “finish” us, no?  If we’re feeling adventurous enough for hook-ups, we should be adventurous enough to demand things that we know help us orgasm. An emotional connection is not required to find the big ‘O’, ladies.

Also, I know that has been written about over and over again. But, the whole thing about how the male orgasm is SO connected to reproduction (and survival of the species), whereas the female orgasm is independent of our ability to reproduce is not talked about enough. Ejaculation (evolutionarily speaking) should be easy since we want to keep humans alive, and lucky them, it also feels really good! I’m not really sure what that means/implies. It’s just an interesting fact I hadn’t really thought about before. Does this put us at a natural “disadvantage”? (assuming we define success = orgasm, which is also not always the case).

Just because it’s casual or because you’re never going to see the guy again, doesn’t mean you don’t need to or shouldn’t communicate (or take charge… who knows, he could even like it).

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